Romance is a type of interaction with your companions in Baldur's Gate 3. Players that develop enough relationship with a companion, will get the chance to romantically interact with them creating a deeper relationship, and even having sex.

Your companions will form opinions about your character based on your actions and your dialogue choices, as well as the factions that you choose to side with.

Having a romance with one of your companions will also affect the opinion that other companions have about your character.

Romance Guide for Baldur's Gate 3

Acquiring a Positive Opinion

In order to begin a romantic relationship with one of your companions, you'll first need to create a positive opinion. This can be achieved by performing actions your desired companion approves of, and avoiding actions that they disapprove of. These actions include every action that the player takes regarding other NPCs and how you handle different situations.

Aiding your desired companion in their personal objectives is also key to developing a romantic relationship. You can talk with them during the campaign or during your adventure to help them sort their individual quests.

Each companion has different ideologies, so learning about their personalities will help you achieve your romantic goal. You can learn more about each companion by visiting the companions page.

Starting a Romance & Camp

The Camp is the best place to grow your relationship with your companions. While you are at the Camp screen (while you are resting), you'll be able to have deeper interactions and conversations with them. When a companion has developed enough confidence in you, you'll get the chance to engage them in a romantic dialogue, starting the romance.

Once you successfully engage a companion romantically, you'll have more dialogue options that can lead to intimacy.

Romanceable Characters in Baldur's Gate 3

 

 Character Romance Guide for Baldur's Gate 3

 

Astarion Romance Guide

Romantic description including interests and personality.

Important Approval Choices

APPROVAL UP:

  • Deceive tieflings and ask Lae'zel to say "please" before freeing her from the cage OR Join Lae'zel against the tieflings if you persuade them to free her
  • Tell Auntie Ethel about a tadpole in your head in the Druid Grove
  • Try to persuade the goblin guard outside the Blighted Village
  • Decline the devil's invitation to remove your tadpole
  • Respond to Volo in the Goblin Camp with "-"
  • Kiss Novice Crusher's foot in the Goblin Camp (and steal the ring)
  • Let Astarion suck your blood in Camp
  • Support Astarion in the dialogue with the team after the bite in the Camp
  • Tell him he can feed on enemies
  • Persuade him to share his dream with you
  • Say you cover him up ( ... if he covers you” - also works) in the same dialogue
  • Kill Gandrel (the hunter who is located near Ethel's home)
  • Agree to help tiefling Karlah
  • In the conversation with Shadowheart (after the dream with the city in fire) support Astarion's idea to continue usage of the tadpole's power
  • (After the next dream) Say to Wyll that you are not going to excuse for using the tadpole's power
  • Let Arka kill Sazza in the Druid Camp's makeshift prison
  • Tell Astarion that the refugees are desperate, and will do anything right after that
  • Tell Kagha the Archdruid you enjoyed her show when she asks if you think she's a monster
  • Choose to walk in on a bugbear and an ogre named Grukkoh and Buthir having sex at the north side of the Blighted Village in an abandoned barn
  • (In the same questline) Tell that it was fun right after that
  • Tell Mairina's brothers they are on their own
  • Resurrect Mairina's husband, give her the staff and tell Astarian that's funny (right after)
  • Kill Gut
  • Demand the boots in the dialogue with Tulla ( in the Underdark's mushroom camp)
  • Do not excuse for using the power of tadpoles (dialogue with the party at the Camp)
  • Tell Abdirak you're curious and agree to be tortured (the follower of Loviatar in the goblin camp)
  • Agree to open the gate for goblin raiders, and when you actually open the gate
  • Join Minthara for the Grove raid (it's possible without actually opening the gates)
  • Fight the fake god Boooal in the Festering Cove OR Let the kuo-toas bow to you as Boooal's chosen
  • Ask for "compensation for effort" in dialogue with Bark Root (guy who was tied to the windmill)
  • Crush the tadpole that comes out of True Soul Edowin
  • Say "They practically worshipped us, that could be useful" right after that
  • Attack the Druid Apprentice Nettie
  • Agree to share your bed with him at the tiefling party at camp
  • Choose the option "Bare your neck, inviting him in the bed"
  • Kick the squirrel in the Druid Grove
  • Poke the bird (that Nettie was healing) to death during the dialogue
  • Kill the Githyanki patrol
  • Agree to kill duergar (dark dwarves) for the myconids' leader
  • Intimidate or provoke the human and Zevlor at the Druid Grove (right after entering the Grove)
  • Choose decapitation during night 2's dialogue at the Camp
  • Kill Gimblebok and the gang near the ruins
  • Give him the necromancy of Thay tome
  • After purchasing an artist, tell him he's a slave
  • Attack the Goblin Camp
  • Volunteer to torture Liam at the Goblin Camp
  • Feed the owlbear at the Camp
  • Decline when Helsin asks to kill goblin leaders
  • Laugh at Lorin (the elf in Ethel's house) by pretending that you are the monster he sees
  • Choose to kill Kagha without trying to persuade her
  • Choose to spare Ethel when he surrenders during the battle
  • In camp, giving your preferred method of death if you first answered that you didn't want to die.

 

APPROVAL DOWN:

  • Agree to help Wyll save the refugees in the Druid Grove
  • Question his attitude toward the controlled fishermen at the Nautiloid wreckage
  • Say that the druids overreacted when speaking to Marriko and Locke in the Druid Grove
  • Agree to help Zevlor
  • Smear dung on your face when Sentinel Olak askes you to
  • Let True Soul Gut (in the Goblin Camp) clear your mind
  • Take the poison from the druid apprentice
  • Agree to help find Marina/Morina (on the way to auntie Ethel)
  • Read the necromancer Tome from Search the Cellar
  • Persuade the tiefling and human to calm down when they're arguing at the Druid's Grove. It doesn't appear as though he will approve of any of the options available
  • Reveal his identity to the monster hunter
  • Failing the persuasion check asking him to explain his dream
  • Killing Mayrina's zombie husband after bringing him back with the hag's wand
  • Promise Nettie to take Wyvern Poison if you feel symptoms of the tadpole (after intimidating/persuading/deceiving her).

Important Dialogue Options
  •  ???
Important Camp Interactions
  • ???

 

Shadowheart Romance Guide

Romantic description including interests and personality.

Important Approval Choices

APPROVAL UP:

  • Tell her that finding the healer is your top priority
  • Show Guex in the Druid Grove your sword fighting technique
  • Persuade Arka that killing Sazza means she'll take everything to the grave
  • In the conversation with her after speaking with Sazza and learning about Gut, "You're right. We have to investigate all leads, no matter how unsavoury."
  • After saving Nadira from the Bugbear Assassin in the Grove, use Deception to convince her to give you the soul coin
  • Tell Andrick and Brynna to forget the owlbear and leave.
  • Crush the tadpole outside of the Druid Grove
  • Swear to Nettie you will take the wyvern poison
  • Convince the owlbear not to kill you in its cave
  • Tell Scratch (the dog) that he can come to your Camp if his friend doesn't wake up
  • Resist during the first dream sequence
  • Fight the fake god Boooal in the Festering Cove.
  • Decline the devil's invitation to remove your tadpole
  • Make Novice Crusher kiss your foot in the Goblin Camp

APPROVAL EXPLOIT:

After discovering a damaged helmet on a body in the Blighted Village and passing a few skill checks in dialogue with Shadowheart, you can get her to reveal her worship of Shar.
After this, the following dialogue option can be repeated in camp to gain infinite approval increase:

  • We should get to know each other better.
  • Tell me something about yourself besides Shar, besides tadpoles.
  • You'll have to point out night orchids to me if we ever pass some.

 

 

APPROVAL DOWN:

  • Join Lae'zel against the tieflings if you persuade them to free her
  • Agree to help Wyll save the refugees in the Druid Grove
  • Tell Auntie Ethel you have a tadpole in your head at the Druid Grove
  • Try to persuade the goblin guard outside the Goblin Camp
  • Help Auntie Ethel when she's confronted by Johl and Demir
  • Smear dung on your face when Sentinel Olak askes you to
  • Shadowheart has a rivalry attitude towards Lae'zel; heeding Lae'zel's advice will upset her
  • Tell her she's hiding something in Camp conversation
  • Choose to walk in on the two trolls having sex in the Blighted Village

 

Important Dialogue Options
  •  ???
Important Camp Interactions
  • ???

 

Gale Romance Guide

Romantic description including interests and personality.

Important Approval Choices

APPROVAL UP:

  • Convince Rolan to stay in the Druid Grove
  • Agree to help Wyll save the refugees in the Druid Grove
  • Show Guex in the Druid Grove your sword fighting technique
  • Say that the druids overreacted when speaking to Marriko and Locke in the Druid Grove
  • Crush the tadpole outside of the Druid Grove
  • Convince the owlbear not to kill you in its cave
  • Tell Scratch (the dog) that he can come to your Camp if his friend doesn't wake up
  • Help Auntie Ethel when she's confronted by Johl and Demir
  • Agree to help Zevlor
  • Make Novice Crusher kiss your foot in the Goblin Camp
  • Help Karlach in the Hunt the Devil quest
  • Any sympathetic behaviors
  • Fight the fake god Boooal in the Festering Cove

 

APPROVAL DOWN:

  • Join Lae'zel against the tieflings if you persuade them to free her
  • Smear dung on your face when Sentinel Olak askes you to
  • Read the Necromancer Tome from Search the Cellar
  • Agree to open the gate for the goblin raiders

Important Dialogue Options
  •  ???
Important Camp Interactions
  • ???

 

Lae'zel Romance Guide

Romantic description including interests and personality.

Important Approval Choices

APPROVAL UP:

  • Show Guex in the Druid Grove your sword fighting technique (Athletics check).
  • Choose to attack Taman and Gimblelock in dialogue outside the Crypt.
  • When talking to Zevlor the first time inside the Druid Grove, tell him you're sorry but you have no time to help him.
  • During dialogue with Lae'zel, after she describes ceremorphosis, tell her you will find a cure.
  • If Kagha's snake kills Arabella, tell her "She was just protecting her own." in dialogue afterwards.
  • Swear to Nettie you will take the poison.
  • Crush the Tadpole outside of the Druid Grove
  • Decline the Devil's invitation to remove your Tadpole
  • Respond to Volo in the Goblin Camp with "-"
  • Make Novice Crusher kiss your foot in the Goblin Camp
  • Resist during the first dream sequence.
  • Cruel behaviors.
  • Calm down the boat near the vampire
  • Fight the fake god Boooal in THE FESTERING COVE.
  • Allowing her to speak to her githyanki brothers/sisters

 

APPROVAL DOWN:

  • Convince the Owlbear not to kill you in its cave
  • Try to persuade the goblin guard outside the Goblin Camp
  • Smear dung on your face when Sentinel Olak askes you to
  • Lae'zel has a rivalry attitude towards Shadowheart, heed to Shadowheart's advice will upset her.
  • Sympathetic behaviors.
  • Disapproves if you succeed in the persuasion check to stop Kagha from imprisoning the child.
  • Agreeing with Shadowheart whenever given the chance.

Important Dialogue Options
  •  ???
Important Camp Interactions
  • ???

 

Wyll Romance Guide

Romantic description including Interests and personality

Important Approval Choices

APPROVAL UP:

  • Show Guex in the Druid Grove your sword fighting technique
  • Crush the Tadpole outside of the Druid Grove
  • Tell Scratch (dog) that he can come to your Camp if his friend doesn't wake up.
  • Try to persuade the goblin guard outside the Goblin Camp
  • Agree to fight Fezzerk in the Blighted Village
  • Decline the Devil's invitation to remove your Tadpole
  • Agree to help Zevlor
  • Make Novice Crusher kiss your foot in the Goblin Camp
  • Help Karlach in Hunt the Devil quest

 

APPROVAL DOWN:

  • Smear dung on your face when Sentinel Olak askes you to
  • If you choose to walk in on the two trolls having sex in the Blighted Village.
  • Cruel Behaviors.
  • Agree to open the gate for goblin raiders.
  • He will leave you if side with the goblins.
  • If you stop the Tiefling from killing Sazza in the cage.

Important Dialogue Options
  •  ???
Important Camp Interactions
  • ???

 

Minthara Romance Guide

Romantic description including Interests and personality

Important Approval Choices

APPROVAL UP:

  • Upon entering the Shattered Sanctum without initiating combat (friendly terms with the Goblins), you can choose to speak to Minthara and agree to join her hunt (Attack Druid Grove).
  • Back at the Druids Grove gain Minthara's trust by betraying the Tieflings (Betray Zavlor) during the ensuing confrontation. Opening the gate for Minthara's hunting party (Blow the warhorn - Betray Zavlor) will lead to a battle with the grove's inhabitants. After slaying every Tiefling and wiping out the druids, return to Minthara.
  • Minthara will offer to join you at your camp. End the day to camp and speak to Minthara. She will join you once you head to your bed.
    • During the following cutscene you have to choce to:
      - Search for her desires: this will result in the possibility to persuade [Persuasion 8]her in the following conversation.
      - [Wisdom Check ?6?]: Search her fears: this will result in having to intimidate her [Intimidation 16] or initiate combat
               - failing to persuade / intimidate her will result in being attacked by her inside your camp.

      In order to gain her trust and keep her approval it is advised not to search through her fears in order to gain access to the overland route to the moonrise towers without being affected by the "curse".

 

APPROVAL DOWN:


Important Dialogue Options
  •  ???
Important Camp Interactions
  • ???

 




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    • Anonymous

      19 Dec 2020 06:22  

      So far Minthara's romance scene is the most intriguing as the after-talk is all about the "Absolute". I wonder if you can remove the worm in her head and how she will think of the protagonist. Good job.

      • Anonymous

        15 Dec 2020 16:30  

        So far, I'm not impressed with any of these companions. Maybe GA version of the game will make them all less like pretentious pricks. Seriously, not much to like in any of them

        • Anonymous

          28 Oct 2020 23:13  

          Shadowheart dissaproves if you tell her "You're keeping something back". She doesn't seem to like it when you pry too much in general xD

          • Anonymous

            11 Oct 2020 12:41  

            Astarion approves in the discussion about killing eachother if tentacles start coming out of their bodies, that if you have to choose you would like to get killed by a knife. But don't know if he just likes all answers about killing methods - didn't test it ^^

            • Anonymous

              10 Oct 2020 21:05  

              Seems my dreams of romancing both Shadowheart and Lae'zel is either impossible or need epic level of work to make it happen

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